Conference Recordings
'How to Talk So Little Kids will Listen' by Joanna Faber and Julie King
Joanna Faber and Julie King share some wonderful ideas about how to respond to children using examples from real life situations. We talk about a 4 year old who doesn’t let his dad do anything for him, twin boys with significant communication delays, a girl who is very anxious, and a child who doesn’t want to hug or kiss family members. You won’t want to miss this delightful and informative conversation.
'The Wheel of Awareness: A Simple Meditative Practice for Parents and Kids' by Dr. Daniel Siegel
Dr. Dan Siegel shows us a simple meditative practice that comes completely from science. He talks about how we, as parents, can use this practice to add a pause before we react, and how we can also teach this to our kids so that they can make more thoughtful choices. The practice includes focused attention, open awareness, and compassion. You can use this practice to create more well being in your relationships, your family, and in your life.
'How to Help a Teen Get Off a Video Game Without Using Consequences' by Dr. Ross Greene.
Dr. Ross Greene says that kids do well when they can… when they can’t, it’s because of unsolved problems and lagging skills. Ross talks about why adult imposed consequences (time out, detention, spanking, etc) don’t work, and he demonstrates what parents can do instead. We asked Ross how he would work with a young teen who is having difficulty getting off a video game. You won’t want to miss his response!
'When You Worry Too Much: 3 Tools for Kids to Minimize Anxiety'
by Dr. Dawn Huebner.
It’s natural for all children to have a little bit of anxiety, but a lot of anxiety is problematic. Dr. Dawn Huebner talks about how to know if our child is experiencing too much anxiety, what you can do to help them, and when to get professional support. Dawn says that too much accommodating and reassurance–things we might do to be compassionate–actually fuels anxiety, rather than resolves it. And she talks about what we can do instead, to help our children anxiety.
'Mindful Communication: Simple Tools to Talk with Kids, Even During a Conflict' by Oren Jay Sofer.
Oren Jay Sofer shows how we can talk with our kids–using mindful and nonviolent communication–to create connection. He demonstrates how we can give our kids more choice and have more closeness, even during a conflict, like asking a child to clean up their room. He even does a fun role play! And ge shares 3 simple tools for how we can bring our attention back to the present moment, so that we can respond consciously to our family members.
'How to Help Kids with ADHD Find Their Strengths' by Dr. Edward Hallowell.
Dr. Edward Hallowell gives parents, professionals (and kids themselves) language to find the “buried treasures” of ADHD. He shares about the strengths of kids with ADHD–the laser focus, tenacity, ingenuity, generosity, forgiveness, curiosity, and energy. He talks how to support kids with ADHD and gives practical advice in the areas of education, medication, coaching, structure and lifestyle.
'Help Your “High Needs” Child Identify and Grow His Superpowers' by Dayna Abraham.
Dayna Abraham helps kids (and their parents) see how their struggles are also their super powers. First, she works to understand the cause of a child’s behavior, which also helps the child have self-awareness. And then she works together with kids to solve everyday struggles, like turning off video games, cleaning up the house, and getting out the door in the morning. If your child has sensory processing disorder, you won’t want to miss this talk. Dayna’s positive approach is infectious and inspirational.
'What Kids (and Parents!) Need to Know about Their Emotions' by Dr. Eve Ekman
The research is clear–that it’s important for us to talk about emotions, to make sense of our feelings, and help our kids cope. But how do we do that? We asked Dr. Eve Ekman about how a frustrated parent can manage their feelings at the end of the day, and also how we help our kids to be more aware of their feelings. Eve also tells the story of how she and her father have collaborated with His Holiness the Dalai Lama. Their project has been to increase global compassion by understanding our emotions. Eve and other researchers created a map so that adults (and now kids!) can understand their emotions and how they react to their feelings.
'Using Conscious and Positive Parenting to Raise Competent Kids' by Vibha Arora
Vibha Arora talks about how to encourage independence and competence in kids. We asked her… How do we know if our kids need a push or a cushion? How do we get “untriggered”? How do we help our child without undermining his independence? How do we get connected to our child? Do we set limits? Vibha also explained what it’s like to parent “differently” than her own family and her culture.
'Digital Parenting: How to Talk to Kids about Tech and Family Values' by Janell Burley Hofmann
Janell Burley Hofmann tells the story of when iPhone contract that she wrote for her son went viral. Janell wisely says that, “digital parenting is not technical, it’s relational”. She walks us through the steps of how to begin–or continue–the conversation with our kids about technology. She demonstrates what we can say, so our children understand our values around technology, it strengthens our relationship, and it teaches our kids the skills of balance, kindness, and self-regulation.
'The Gift of ADHD' by Dr. Lara Honos-Webb
Dr. Lara Honos-Webb talks about how kids and adults with ADHD and learning disabilities are more creative, innovative, more empathic, expressive, and better problem solvers than people in the general population. Lara gives practical advice about how to reframe problem areas, build on the successes and interests of kids, increase persistence and motivation, how to help kids define themselves by their success, and how to organize, initiate, and plan daily tasks.
'How Self Compassion Makes Us Better Parents' by Dr. Kristin Neff
Dr. Kristin Neff addresses the myth that parents need to be harsh with their children in order to motivate them. Another cultural myth is that parents need to be harsh with themselves in order to keep themselves motivated. Self compassion is not self indulgent, narcissistic, nor does it promote laziness; in fact, the opposite is true. By being kind to ourselves we are better able to be kind to others and Kristen shows some simple ways we can be more compassionate in our everyday life.